Over the next few months, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions – Part 7
“The way to keep yourself from making assumptions is to ask questions. Make sure the communication is clear. If you don’t understand, ask. Have the courage to ask questions until you are clear as you can be, and even then do not assume you know all there is to know about a given situation. Once you hear the answer, you will not have to make assumptions because you will know the truth.
Also, find your voice to ask for what you want. Everybody has the right to tell you no or yes, but you always have the right to ask. Likewise, everybody has the right to ask you, and you have the right to say yes or no.
If you don’t understand something, it is better for you to ask and be clear, instead of making an assumption. The day you stop making assumptions you will communicate cleanly and clearly, free of emotional poison. Without assumptions your word becomes impeccable.”
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
Ask Questions!
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Over the next few months, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions – Part 6
“Often when you go into a relationship with someone you like, you have to justify why you like that person. You only see what you want to see and you deny there are things you don’t like about that person. You lie to yourself just to make yourself right. Then you make assumptions, and one of the assumptions is. “My love will change this person.” But it is not true. Your love will not change anybody. If others change, it’s because they want to change, not because you can change them. Then something happens between the two of you, and get hurt. Suddenly you see what you didn’t want to see before, only now it is amplified by your emotional poison. Now you have to justify your emotional pain and blame them for your choices.
We don’t need to justify love; it is there or not there. Real love is accepting other people the way they are without trying to change them. If we try to change them, this means we don’t really like them. Of course, if you decide to live with someone, if you make that agreement, it is always better to make that agreement with someone who is exactly the way you want him or her to be. Find someone whom you don’t have the change at all. It is much easier to find someone who is already the way you want him or her to be, instead of trying to to change that person. Also that person must love you just the way you are, so he or she doesn’t have to change you at all. If others feel they have to change you, that means they really don’t love you just the way you are. So why be with someone if you’re not the way he or she wants you to be?”
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
WE MUST STOP TRYING TO CHANGE THE PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES!
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Over the next few months, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions – Part 5
“We make the assumption that everyone sees life the way we do. We assume that others think the way we think, feel the way we feel, judge the way we judge, and abuse the way we abuse. This is the biggest assumption that humans make. And this is why we have a fear of being ourselves around others. Because we think everyone else will judge us, victimize us, abuse us, and blame us as we do ourselves. So even before others have a chance to reject us, we have already rejected ourselves. That is the way the human mind works.
We also make assumptions about ourselves, and this creates a lot of inner conflict. “I think I am able to do this.” You make this assumption, for instance, then you discover you aren’t able to do it. You overestimate or underestimate yourself because you haven’t taken the time to ask yourself questions and to answer them. Perhaps you need to gather more facts about a particular situation. Or maybe you need to stop lying to yourself about what you truly want.”
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
WE MUST STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS!!!!
This is so true. I for one is guilty of thinking others think and see life like me and then I am disappointed when I realize that they have their own way.
I overestimate and underestimate myself regularly. I am always up to try something new even if I haven’t done it before. Sometimes you get it right and your self-esteem get a boost, other times it is one massive failure and when you fail you start blaming yourself for even trying… I have learned that I have to ask myself a few questions before I say yes to a challenge.
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Over the next few months, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions – Part 4
“It is very interesting how the human mind works. We have the need to justify everything, to explain and understand everything, in order to feel safe. We have millions of questions that need answers because there are so many things that the reasoning mind cannot explain. It is not important if the answer is correct; just the answer itself makes us feel safe. This is why we make assumptions.
If others tell us something, we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate. Even if we hear something we don’t understand, we make assumptions about what it means and then believe the assumptions. We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.
These assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time because we have agreements to communicate this way. We have agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; we have agreed that if people love us, they should know what we want or how we feel. When we believe something, we assume we are right about it to the point that it will destroy relationships in order to defend our position.”
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
I don’t know about you, but this sounds a lot like me. I always think that the people who loves me know what I am thinking and then I get mad if they don’t. We do not communicate anymore. The same with texting. You imagine the “tone” in which the other person says it and you are immediately on your high horse. All the time your partner or the other person did not mean anything by it. It is you making assumptions of how the other person is feeling and reacting….
WE MUST STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS!!!!
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Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions – Part 3
“Making assumptions in our relationships is really asking for problems. Often we make the assumption that our partners know what we think and that w don’t have to say what we want. We assume they are going to do what we want, because they know us so well. If they don’t do what we assume they should do, we feel so hurt and say, “You should have known.”
Another example: You decide to get married, and you make the assumption that your partner sees marriage the same way you do. Then you live together and you find out this is not true. This creates a lot of conflict, but you still don’t try to clarify your feelings about marriage. The husband comes home from work and the wife is mad, and the husband doesn’t know why. Maybe it’s because the wife made an assumption. Without telling him what she wants, she makes an assumption that he knows her so well, that he knows what she wants, as if he can read her mind. She gets so upset because he fails to meet her expectations. Making assumptions in relationships leads to a lot of fights, a lot of difficulties, a lot of misunderstandings with people we supposedly love.
In any kind of relationship we can make the assumption that others know what we think, and we don’t have to say what we want. They are going to do what we want because they know us so well. If they don’t do what we want, what we assume they should do, we feel hurt and think, “How could you do that? You should know.” Again we make the assumption that the other person knows what we want. A whole drama is created because we make this assumption and then put more assumptions on top of it.”
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
Oh my word today’s piece really hits the nail on the head. I assumed my partner knew what I want out of the relationship, I got hurt, felt rejected and not important to him. I bought The Four Agreements and when I read this part I decided to put my list of what I need to make the relationship work on paper for my partner.
If you tell your partner what you want out of your relationship it makes things better, you don’t have to assume your partner knows what you want, because you talked about is. Sometimes it work, but sometimes even this is not enough…
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Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions – Part 2
“We create a lot of emotional poison just by making assumptions and taking it personally, because usually we start gossiping about our assumptions. Remember, gossiping is the way we communicate to each other in the dream of hell and transfer poison to one another. Because we are afraid to ask for clarification, we make assumptions, and believe we are right about the assumptions; then we defend our assumptions and try to make someone else wrong. It is always better to ask questions than to make an assumption, because assumptions set us up for suffering.
The big mitote in the human mind creates a lot of chaos which causes us to misinterpret everything and misunderstand everything. We only see what we want to see, and hear what we want to hear. We don’t perceive things the way they are. We have a the habit of dreaming with no basis in reality. We literally dream things up in our imaginations. Because we don’t understand something, we make an assumption about the meaning, and when the truth comes out, the bubble of our dream pops and we find out it was not what we thought it was at all.
An example: You are walking in the mall, and you see a person you like. That person turns to you and smiles, and then walks away. You can make a lot of assumptions just because of this one experience. With these assumptions you can create a whole fantasy. And you really want to believe this fantasy and make it real. A whole dream begins to form just from your assumptions, and you can believe, “Oh, this person really likes me.” In your mind a whole relationship begins from that. Maybe you even get married in this fantasyland. But the fantasy is in your mind, in your personal dream.”
Don Miguel Ruiz
Oh my goodness while I read this and also again now typing it I can relate. As a teenager I had this huge crush on a boy. He was one of the popular boys and I was very shy at that time. I met him once in person at a friends birthday party and she introduced us. We talked and from that day on he would greet and smile at me when we see each other at school. I tried to keep it cool but in my head I was making up these stories of us being a couple and going out to parties. Not long after he had a steady girlfriend and my heart was broken. He still greeted and smiled at me whenever he saw me. Only now do I realize that from a young age we are making assumptions that lead to disappointment and heartache.
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Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions – Part 1
“The Third Agreement is Don’t make Assumptions.
We have the tendency to make assumptions about everything. The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth. We could swear they are real. We make assumptions about what others are doing or thinking – we take it personally – then we blame them and react by sending emotional poison with our word. That is why whenever we make assumptions, we’re asking for problems. We make an assumption, we misunderstand, we take it personally, and we end up creating a whole big drama for nothing.
All the sadness and drama you have lived in your life was rooted in making assumptions and taking things personally. Take a moment to consider the truth of this statement. The whole war of control between humans is about making assumptions and taking things personally. Our whole dream of hell is based on that.”
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
Well what can I say. I am guilty. I think I have the power to read peoples minds. I think I know what they are thinking. I think I know what they are doing behind close doors. Oh my word I am soooo guilty of making assumptions.
Be honest with yourself have you ever look at your partner and assumed what he or she was thinking or planning and then you pick a fight and make a whole unpleasant thing out of what you thought they were thinking or planning… Meanwhile you made it up all in your mind….
The lesson to learn is spare yourself a lot of pain and unpleasantness by NOT MAKING ASSUMPTIONS.
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Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally – Part 5
“When you make it a strong habit not to take anything personally, you avoid many upsets in your life. Your anger, jealousy, and envy will disappear, and even your sadness will simply disappear if you don’t take things personally.
If you can make the second agreement a habit, you will find that nothing can put you back into hell. There is a huge amount of freedom that comes to you when you take nothing personally. You become immune to black magicians, and no spell can affect you regardless of how strong it may be. The whole world can gossip about you, and if you don’t take it personally you are immune. Someone can intentionally send emotional poison, and if you don’t take the emotional poison, it becomes even worse in the sender, but not in you.
You can see how important this agreement is. Taking nothing personally helps you to break many habits and routines that trap you in the dream of hell and cause needless suffering. Just by practicing this second agreement you begin to break dozens of teeny, tiny agreements that cause you to suffer.
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
I know it is very difficult not to take things personally, but we have to try. When we fail to do so today, then we try again tomorrow…..
Next week we start with the Third Agreement – Don’t make Assumptions
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I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally – Part 4
“Don’t take anything personally because by taking things personally you set yourself up to suffer for nothing. Humans are addicted to suffering at different levels and to different degrees, and we support each other in maintaining these addictions. Humans agree to help each other suffer. If you have the need to be abused, you will find it easy to be abused by others. Likewise, if you are with people who need to suffer, something in you makes you abuse them. It is as if they have a note on their back tat says, “Please kick me.” They are asking for justification for their suffering. Their addiction to suffering is nothing but an agreement that is reinforced every day.
Wherever you go you will find people lying to you, and as your awareness grows, you will notice that you also lie to yourself. Do not expect people to tell you the truth because they also lie to themselves. You have to trust yourself and choose to believe or not to believe what someone says to you.
When we really see other people as they are without taking it personally, we can never be hurt by what they say or do. Even if others lie to you, it is okay. They are lying to you because they are afraid. They are you will discover that they are not perfect. It is painful to take that social mask off. If others say one thing, but do another, you are lying to yourself if you don’t listen to their actions. But if you are truthful with yourself, you will save yourself a lot of emotional pain. Telling yourself the truth about it may hurt, but you don’t need to be attached to the pain. Healing is on the way, and it’s just a matter of time before things will be better for you.”
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
How many of us are really truthful with ourselves? We are all afraid to get hurt and we would do anything to protect ourselves.
Let’s all try for one day to be truthful to ourselves and others, no matter how hard it might be.
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The Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally Part 3
“Whatever people do, feel, think, or say, don’t take it personally. If they tell you how wonderful you are, they are not saying that because of you. You know you are wonderful. It is not necessary to believe other people who tell you that you are wonderful. Don’t take anything personally. Even if someone got a gun and shot you in the head, it was nothing personal. Even at that extreme.
Even the opinions you have about yourself are not necessarily true; therefore, you don’t need to take whatever you hear in your own mind personally. The mind has the ability to talk to itself, but it also has the ability to hear information that is available from other realms. Sometimes you hear a voice in your mind, and you may wonder where it came from. This voice may have come from another reality in which there are living beings very similar to the human mind. The Toltecs called these beings Allies. In Europe, Africa, and India they called them the Gods.
Our mind also exist in the level of the Gods. Our mind also lives in that reality and can perceive that reality. The mind sees with the eyes and perceives this waking reality. But the mind also sees and perceives without the eyes, although the reason is hardly aware of this perception. There may be times when you have ideas that don’t originate in your mind, but you are perceiving them with your mind. You have the right to believe or not believe these voices and the right not to take what they say personally. We have a choice whether or not to believe the voices we hear within our own minds, just as we have a choice of what to believe and agree with in the dream of the planet.
The mind can also talk and listen to itself. The mind is divided as your body is divided. Just as you can say, “I have one hand, and I can shake my other hand and feel the other hand,” the mind can talk to itself. Part of the mind is speaking, and the other part is listening. It is a big problem when a thousand parts of your mind are all speaking at the same time. This is called a mitote, remember?
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
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The Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally: Part 2
“When you take things personally, then you feel offended, and your reaction is to defend your beliefs and create conflicts. You make something big out of something so little, because you have the need to be right and make everybody else wrong. You also try hard to be right by giving them your own opinions. In the same way, whatever you feel and do is just a projection of your own personal dream, a reflection of your own agreements. What you say, what you do, and the opinions you have are according to the agreements you have made – and these opinions have nothing to do with me.
It is not important to me what you think about me, and I don’t take what you think personally. I don’t take it personally when people say, “Miguel, you are the best,” and I also don’t take it personally when they say, “Miguel, you are the worst.” I know that when you are happy you will tell me, “Miguel, you are such an angel!” But, when you are mad at me you will say, “Oh, Miguel, you are such a devil! You are so disgusting. How can you say those things?” Either way, it does not affect me because I know what I am. I don’t have the need to be accepted. I don’t have the need to have someone tell me, “Miguel, you are doing so good!” or “How dare you do that!”
No, I don’t take it personally. Whatever you think, whatever you feel, I know is your problem and not my problem. It is the way you see the world. It is nothing personal, because you are dealing with yourself, not with me. Others are going to have their own opinion according to their belief system, so nothing they think about me is really about me, but it is about them.”
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
I think the author explained how to not take anything personally very good. Now all we have to do is to start incorporating it in our everyday life.
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Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Second Agreement: Don’t Take Anything Personally – Part 1
“The next three agreements are really born from the first agreement. The second agreement is don’t take anything personally.
Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Using an earlier example, if I see you on the street and I say, “Hey, you are so stupid,” without knowing you, it’s not about you; it’s about me. If you take it personally, then perhaps you believe you are stupid. Maybe you think to yourself, “How does he know? Is he clairvoyant, or can everybody see how stupid I am?”
You take it personally because you agree with whatever was said. As soon as you agree, the poison goes through you, and you are trapped in the dream of hell. What causes you to be trapped is what we call personal importance. Personal importance, or taking things personally, is the maximum expression of selfishness because we make the assumption that everything is about “me.” During that period of our education, or our domestication, we learn to take everything personally. We think we are responsible for everything. Me, me, me, always me!
Nothing other people do is because of themselves. All people live in their own dream, in their own mind; they are in a completely different world from the one we live in. When we take something personally, we make the assumption that they know what is in our world, and we try to impose our world on their world.
Even when a situation seems so personal, even if others insult you directly, it has nothing to do with you. What they say, what they do, and the opinions they give are according to the agreements they have in their own minds. Their point of view comes from all the programming they received during domestication.”
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
The second agreement, “don’t take anything personally,” is not a easy one.
It is not easy to not take things personally when someone say something hurtful or insulting. But we have to try.
I think I understand it. Sometimes when you are tired and irritated you tend to lash out on other people. Sometimes the ones closest to you or even a complete stranger. When someone say something to you or do something to you, maybe they are having a bad day, Don’t take it personally.
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The First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word – Part 7
“If we adopt the first agreement, and become impeccable with our word, any emotional poison will eventually be cleaned from our mind and from our communication in our personal relationships. Including with our pet dog or cat.
Impeccability of the word will also give you immunity from anyone putting a negative spell on you. You will only receive a negative idea if your mind is fertile ground for that idea. When you become impeccable with your word, your mind is no longer fertile ground for words that come from black magic. Instead, it is fertile for the words that come from love. You can measure the impeccability of your word by your level of self-love. How much you love yourself and how you feel about yourself are directly proportionate to the quality and integrity of your word. When you are impeccable with your word, you feel good; you feel happy and at peace.
You can transcend the dream of hell just by making the agreement to be impeccable with your word. Right now I am planting that seed in your mind. Whether or not the seed grows depends upon how fertile your mind is for the seeds of love. It is up to you to make this agreement with yourself: I am impeccable with my word. Nurture this seed, and as it grows in your mind, it will generate more seeds of love to replace the seeds of fear. This first agreement will change the kind of seeds your mind is fertile for.
Be impeccable with your word. This is the first agreement that you should make if you want to be free, if you want to be happy, if you want to transcend the level of existence that is hell. It is very powerful. Use the word in the correct way. Use the word to share your love. Use white magic, beginning with yourself. Tell yourself how wonderful you are, how great you are. Tell yourself how much you love yourself. Use the word to break all those teeny, tiny agreements that make you suffer.”
Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
What can I say? Today I am making a new agreement with myself. I am going to start loving myself more. I am going to tell myself every day how wonderful I am. I am going to try to be more impeccable with my word. I will try not to think negative thoughts. If I do I will start all over again till I don’t think negative thoughts anymore. Baby steps at a time.
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The First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word – Part 6
“Looking at everyday human interactions, imagine how many time we cast spells on each other with our word. Over time this interaction has become the worst form of black magic, and we call it gossip.
Gossip is black magic at its very worst because it is pure poison. We learned how to gossip by agreement. When we were children, we heard the adults around us gossiping all the time, open giving their opinions about other people. They even had opinions about people they didn’t know. Emotional poison was transferred along with the opinions, and we learned this as the normal way to communicate.
Gossiping has become the main form of communication in human society. It has become the way we feel close to each other because it makes us feel better to see someone else feel as badly as we do. There is an old expression that says, “Misery likes company,” and people who are suffering in hell don’t want to be all alone. Fear and suffering are an important part of the dream of the planet keeps us down.
Using the analogy of the human mind as a computer, gossip can be compared to a computer virus. A computer virus is a piece of computer language written in the same language all the other codes are written in, but with a harmful intent….
….Human gossip works exactly the same way. For example, you are beginning a new class with a new teacher and you have looked forward to it for a long time. On the first day of class, you run into someone who took the class before, who tells you, “Oh that instructor was such a pompous jerk! He didn’t know what he was talking about, and he was a pervert too, so watch out!”….
As the teacher speaks, you feel the poison come up inside you and you don’t realize you see the teacher through the eyes of the person who gave you that gossip. Then you start talking to other people in the class about this, and they start to see the teacher in the same way: as a jerk and a pervert. You really hate the class, and soon you decide to drop out. You blame the teacher, but it is gossip that is to blame….”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Gossip have ruined many people’s lives. That is why we must be impeccable with our word. When we get mad at someone we want to ruin them so we spread lies about that person. These lies spread like wild fire and before you know it everybody thinks the person is as bad as you said. Stop spreading lies. Think before you speak. Only speak kind and true words.
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The First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word – Part 5
“There was a woman, for example, who was intelligent and had a very good heart. She had a daughter whom she adored and loved very much. One night she came home from a very bad day at work, tired, full of emotional tension, and with a terrible headache. She wanted peace and quiet, but her daughter was singing and jumping happily. The daughter was unaware of how her mother was feeling; she was in her own world, in her own dream. She felt so wonderful, and she was jumping and singing louder and louder, expressing her joy and her love. She was singing so loud that it made her mother’s headache even worse, and at a certain moment, the mother lost control. Angrily she looked at her beautiful little girl and said, “Shut up! You have an ugly voice. Can you just shut up!”
The truth is that the mother’s tolerance for any noise was nonexistent; it was not that the little girl’s voice was ugly. But the daughter believed what her mother said, and in that moment she made an agreement with herself. After that she no longer sang, because she believed her voice was ugly and would bother anyone who heard it. She became shy at school, and if she was asked to sing, she refused. Even speaking to others became difficult for her. Everything changed in the little girl because of this agreement: She believed she must repress her emotions in order to be accepted and loved.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
The mother hurt her daughters feelings and made her believe she had a ugly voice. This made an impact on the daughters whole life.
How many times do we as parents do the same? We don’t even think of the repercussions. I always tried to give my boys positive feedback. But sometimes when you have a bad day someone else pays the price.
Thank you with all my heart for stopping by. Thank you for your continued support. I am truly grateful for every view, like, follow and comment.
Stay safe and grateful.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word – Part 4
“The power of the word is completely misused in hell. We use the word to curse, to blame, to find guilt, to destroy. Of course, we also use it in the right, but not too often. Mostly we use the word to spread our personal poison – to express anger, jealousy, envy, and hate. The word is pure magic – the most powerful gift we have as humans – and we use it against ourselves. We plan revenge. We create chaos with the word. We use the word to create hate between different races, between different people, between families, between nations. We misuse the word so often, and this misuse is how we create and perpetuate the dream of hell. Misuse of the word is how we pull each other down and keep each other in a magic that humans possess and misuse all the time without knowing that word is magic at all.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
We all say things we don’t mean when we are mad. We hurt others so that we can feel better, but in the process we hurt ourselves even more.
Thank you with all my heart for stopping by. Thank you for your continued support. I am truly grateful for every view, like, follow and comment.
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word – Part 2
“…..During our domestication, our parents and siblings gave their opinions about us without even thinking. We believed these opinions and we lived in fear over these opinions, like not being good at swimming, or sports, or writing. Someone gives an and says, “Look, this girl is ugly!” The girl listens, believes she is ugly, and grows up with the idea that she is ugly. It doesn’t matter how beautiful she is; as long as she has that agreement, she will believe that she is ugly. That is the spell she is under.
By hooking our attention, the word can enter our mind and change a whole belief for better or for worse. Another example: You may believe you are stupid, and you may have believed this for as long as you can remember. This agreement can be very tricky, causing you to do a lot of things just to ensure that you are stupid. You may do something and think to yourself, “I wish I were smart, but I must be stupid or I wouldn’t have done that.” The mind goes in hundreds o different directions, and we could spend days getting hooked by just that one belief in our own stupidity.
Then one day someone hooks your attention and using the word, lets you know that you are not stupid. You believe what the person says and make a new agreement. As a result, you no longer feel or act stupid. A whole spell is broken, just by the power of the word. Conversely, if you believe you are stupid, and someone hooks your attention and says, “Yes, you are really the most stupid person I have ever met,” the agreement will be reinforced and become even stronger.
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
When I was in high school I believed I was fat. Why did I think that because the other girls said so. When I looked at myself in the mirror I hated what I saw. I started exercising and starving myself because I “needed to lose some weight”.
I have been doing ballet since I was in Grade 1 and at that time we had classes 4 times a week and also during school holidays. Before one of our exams our Ballet teacher spoke to us individually to point out what we need to work. That day my whole perspective about my body changed. She told me that I have a perfect body and the most beautiful legs she has ever seen. I believed her and looked at my body in a whole different way. The only thing I had to work on was my breathing and keeping eye contact with the examinator.
I made a choice to believe my teacher and everything changed. I had more self-confidence and even my schoolwork improved.
I realized at an early age that when others are jealous of you they will “plant” bad thoughts in your mind. We have the choice to accept and make a new agreement or we choose not to accept it.
Once again we need to be impeccable with our words. Always try to be kind and don’t speak negative words.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support. I do hope you enjoy the book with me.
Till next week. Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word – Part 1
“The First Agreement is the most important on and also the most difficult one to honor. It is so important that with just this first agreement you will be able to transcend to the level of existence I call heaven on earth.
The first agreement is to be impeccable with your word. It sounds very simple, but it is very, very powerful.
Why your word? Your word is the power that you have to create. Your word is the gift that comes directly from God. The Gospel of John in the Bible, speaking of the creation of the universe, says. “In the beginning was the word, and the word was with God, and the word is God.” Through the word you express your creative power. It is through the word that you manifest everything. Regardless of what language you speak, your intent manifests through the word. What you dream, what you feel, and what you really are, will all be manifested through the word.
The word is not just a sound or a written symbol. The word is a force; it is the power you have to express and communicate, to think, and thereby to create the events in your life. You can speak. What other animal on the planet can speak? The word is the most powerful tool you have as a human; it is the tool of magic. But like a sword with two edges, your word can create the most beautiful dream, or your word can destroy everything around you. One edge is the misuse of the word, which creates a living hell. The other edge is the impeccability of the word, which will only create beauty, love, and heaven on earth. Depending upon how it is used, the word can set you free, or it can enslave you even more than you know. All the magic you possess is based on your word. Your word is pure magic, and misuse of your word is black magic….”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
There you have it. We are only a three pages into this chapter and already my mind is working overtime. My mother always said if you can’t say something kind about someone rather say nothing at all. She also said think before you speak.
If you have been following the Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts you will have noticed that it is all mainly focused on being kind to yourself and others. To be grateful for yourself and others. We have also learned that what we put out in the universe comes back to you.
If we speak badly about others we are indirectly speaking badly about ourselves. So let’s try to be impeccable with our words. Try to only speak kind words and words of motivation. Let’s all try to create a beautiful dream filled with love, beauty and peace.
Yes, it is not going to be easy. If we did not succeed today we start all over tomorrow. Let’s all be impeccable with our words.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
 List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of The Planet: Part 12
“There are thousands of agreements you have made with yourself, with other people, with your dream of life, with God, with society, with your parents, with your spouse, with your children. But the most important agreements are the ones you made with yourself. In these agreements you tell yourself who you are, what you feel, what you believe, and how to behave. The result is what you call your personality. In these agreements you say, “This is what I am. This is what I believe. I can do certain things, and some things I cannot do. This is reality, that is fantasy; this is possible, that is impossible.”
One single agreement is not such a problem, but we have many agreements that make us suffer, that make us fail in life. If you want to live a life of joy and fulfillment, you have to find the courage to brake those agreements that are fear-based and claim your personal power. The agreements that come from fear require us to expend a lot of energy, but the agreements that come from love help us to conserve energy and even gain extra energy……
…..If we can see it is our agreements that rule our own life, and we don’t like the dream of our life, we need to change the agreements. When we are finally ready to change our agreements, there are four very powerful agreements that will help us to break those agreements that come from fear and deplete our energy.
Each time you break an agreement, all the power you used to create it returns to you. If you adopt these four new agreements, they will create enough personal power for you to change the entire system of your old agreements.
You need a very strong will in order to adopt The Four Agreements – but if you can begin to live your life with these agreements, the transformation in your life will be amazing. You will see the drama of hell disappear right before your very eyes. Instead of living in a dream of hell, you will be creating a new dream – your personal dream of heaven.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
I don’t have much to add to the above. Are you ready to change your life? I surely am. I have started to adopt the Four Agreements and although it is not that easy it is not impossible. It takes a lot of practice. When you fail you just start again. Next week we will start on the first agreement.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of The Planet: Part 11
“In your whole life nobody has ever abused you more than you have abused yourself. And the limit of you self-abuse is exactly the limit that you will tolerate from someone else. If someone abuses you a little more than you abuse yourself, you will probably walk away from that person. But if someone abuses you a little less than you abuse yourself, you will stay in the relationship and tolerate it endlessly.
If you abuse yourself very badly, you can even tolerate someone who beats you up, humiliates you, and treats you like dirt. Why? Because in your belief system you say, “I deserve it. This person is doing me a favor by being with me. I’m not worthy of love and respect. I’m not good enough.”
We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring up to that ideal. Our image of perfection is the reason we reject ourselves; it is why we don’t accept ourselves the way we are, and why we don’t accept others the way they are.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Again I have to agree with the Author. We do abuse ourselves. We are never happy with the way we look and how we are suppose to react. We paint this perfect picture in our minds of how we and others is suppose to react in certain circumstances. What the perfect body looks like. What the perfect man or woman looks like. How a perfect relationship looks like. But the fact is every person on earth has his or her own perfect picture in their mind.
We must stop rejecting ourselves. We must learn to love ourselves again. Then the self abuse will stop and we will be able to see the dream clearer.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet: Part 10
“During the process of domestication, we form an image of what perfection is in order to try to be good enough. We create an image of how we should be in order to be accepted by everybody. We especially try to please the ones who love us, like Mom and Dad, big brothers and sisters, the priests and the teacher. Trying to be good enough for them, we create an image of perfection, but we don’t fit this image. We create this image, but this image is not real. We are never going to be perfect from this point of view. Never!
Not being perfect, we reject ourselves. And the level of self-rejection depends upon how effective the adult were in breaking our integrity. After domestication it is no longer about being good enough for anybody else. We are not good enough for ourselves because we don’t fit with our own image of perfection. We cannot forgive ourselves for not being perfect.
We know we are not what we believe we are supposed to be and so we feel false, frustrated, and dishonest. We try to hide ourselves, and we pretend to be what we are not. The result is that we feel unauthentic and wear social masks to keep others from noticing this. We are so afraid that somebody else will notice that we are not what we pretend to be. We judge others according to our image of perfection as well, and naturally they fall short of our expectations.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
WOW, today this few paragraphs really hit the nail on the head. Sometimes we set the standards so high that we can’t even reach it ourselves. When you are in a new relationship you say and do what you think the other person wants to see and hear. We all do it. Why do we do it? No one wants to be rejected so we dishonor ourselves to please others.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet: Part 9
“All of humanity is searching for truth, justice, and beauty. We are on an eternal search for the truth because we only believe in the lies we have stored in our mind. We are searching for justice because in the belief system we have, there is no justice. We search for beauty because it doesn’t matter how beautiful a person is, we don’t believe that person has beauty. We keep searching and searching, when everything is already within us. There is no truth to find. Wherever we turn our heads, all we see is the truth, but with the agreements and beliefs we have stored in our mind, we have no eyes for this truth.
We don’t see the truth because we are blind. What blinds us are all those false beliefs we have in our mind. We have the need to be right and to make others wrong. We trust what we believe, and our beliefs set us up for suffering. It is as if we live in the middle of a fog that doesn’t let us see any further than our own nose. We live in a fog that is not even real. This fog is a dream, your personal dream of life – what you believe, all the concepts you have about what you are, all the agreements you have made with, others, with yourself, and even with God.
Your whole mind is a fog which the Toltecs called a mitote. Your mind is a dream where a thousand people talk at the same time, and nobody understands each other. This is the condition of the human mind – a big mitote and with that big mitote you cannot see what you really are. In India they call the mitote maya, which means illusion. It is the personality’s notion of “I am. We cannot see who we truly are; we cannot see that we are not free.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Again I agree with the author. All of us are searching for truth, justice and beauty. We all want to be right. When I was a younger and someone told me I was beautiful I did not believe them. I thought they were lying. When you got hurt more than once it is not easy to believe others. Always thinking the worst.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
I am not abandoning my Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts. I will still be posting them on a daily basis. Sometimes in the morning and sometimes in the evening. I am dedicating Mondays for our continued Gratitude practice. We can’t stop now. If you have certain areas in your life you would like to refresh or share a story about how the Gratitude practices changed your life, feel free to email me.
I have a few self-help books, and I am going to read them and everyday I will share something with you. Post will differ, some will be long and some will be short.
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet: Part 8
“Religions say that hell is a place of punishment, a place of fear, pain, and suffering, a place where the fire burns you. Fire is generated by emotions that come from fear. Whenever we feel the emotions of anger, jealousy, envy, or hate, we experience a fire burning within us. We are living in a dream of hell.
If you consider hell as a state of mind, then hell is all around us. Others may warn us that if we don’t do what they say we should do, we will go to hell. Bad news! We are already in hell, including the people who tell us that. No human can condemn another to hell because we are already there. Others can put us into deeper hell, true. But only if we allow this to happen.
Every human has his or her own personal dream, and just like the society dream, it is often ruled by fear. We learn to dream hell in our own life, in our personal dream. The same fears manifest in different ways for each person, of course, but we experience anger, jealousy, hate, envy, and other negative emotions. Our personal dream can also become an ongoing nightmare where we suffer and live in a state of fear. But we don’t need to dream a nightmare. It is possible to enjoy a pleasant dream.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
I do agree with the author. We do live in our own hell. But it is our choice. If I have to take myself as a example I also create my own hell. I set very high standards for myself others. When I am not happy with the outcome I get angry with myself and those who did not meet it.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet
“True justice is paying only once for each mistake. True injustice is paying more than once for each mistake.
How many times do we pay for one mistake? The answer is thousands of times. The human is the only animal on earth that pays a thousand times for the same mistake. The rest of the animals pay once for every mistake they make. But not us. We have a powerful memory. We make a mistake, we judge ourselves, we find ourselves guilty, and we punish ourselves. If justice exists, then that was enough; we don’t need to do it again. But every time we remember, we judge ourselves again, we are guilty again, and we punish ourselves again, and again, and again. If we have a wife or husband he or she also reminds us of the mistake, so we can judge ourselves again, punish ourselves again, and find ourselves guilty again. Is this fair?
How many times do we make our spouse, our children, or our parents pay for the same mistake? Every time we remember the mistake, we blame them again and send them all the emotional poison we feel at the injustice, and then we make them pay again for the same mistake. Is that justice? The Judge in the mind is wrong because the belief system, the Book of Law, is wrong. The whole dream is based on false law. Ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe all these lies.
In the dream of the planet it is normal for humans to suffer, to live in fear, and to create emotional dramas. The outside dream is not a pleasant dream; it is a dream of violence, a dream of fear, a dream of war, a dream of injustice. The personal dream of humans will vary, but globally it is mostly a nightmare. If we look at human society we see a place so difficult to live in because it is ruled by fear.
Throughout the world we see human suffering, anger, revenge, addictions, violence in the street, and tremendous injustice. It may exist at different levels in different countries around the world, but fear is controlling the outside dream.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Well, I don’t know about you, but I am guilty of doing the above. When someone hurts me or breaks my trust I have a very difficult time forgetting. To earn my trust again is going take hard work. 99% of the time I cut ties with that person and it is like they never even existed.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet: Part 6
“There is something in our minds that judges everybody and everything, including the weather, the dog, the cat – everything. The inner Judge uses what is in our Book of Law to judge everything we do and don’t do, everything we think and don’t think, and everything we feel and don’t feel. Everything lives under the tyranny of this Judge. Every time w do something that goes against the Book of Law, the Judge says we are guilty, we need to be punished, we should be ashamed. This happens many times a day, day after day, for all the years of our lives.
There is another part of us that receives the judgements, and that part is called the Victim. The Victim carries the blame, the guilt, and the shame. It is the part of us that says, “Poor me, I’m not good enough, I’m not intelligent enough, I’m not attractive enough, I’m not worthy of love, poor me.” The big Judge agrees and says, “Yes, you are not good enough.” And this is all based on a belief system that we never chose to believe. These beliefs are so strong, that even years later when we are exposed to new concepts and try to make our own decisions, we find that these beliefs still control our lives.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
We believe everything that is in the Book of Law that we created for ourselves. We are afraid to challenge our own beliefs. We tell ourselves that we are not good enough. The reason why we are lonely is because we are not worthy of love. At one stage of my life I also said and believed that I am not good, intelligent and beautiful enough to be successful. Then one day someone told me that I must know my worth. Only if you believe in yourself then you will stop feeling like a victim. To challenge your own beliefs takes courage
The Book of Law we live by is made up by ourselves. We create rules for ourselves to live by and we believe that this is how it is suppose to be.
That’s all for today friends, we will continue next Tuesday.
Thank you for your ongoing support.
Have a lovely day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people/cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet: Part 5
“The fear of being rejected becomes the fear of not being good enough. Eventually we become someone that we are not. We become a copy of Mamma’s beliefs, Daddy’s beliefs, society’s beliefs and religion’s beliefs.
All our normal tendencies are lost in the process of domestication. And when we are old enough for our mind to understand, we learn the word no. The adults say, “Don’t do this and don’t do that.” We rebel and say, “No!” We rebel because we are defending our freedom. We want to be ourselves, but we are very little, and the adults are big and strong. After a certain time we are afraid because we know that every time we do something wrong we are going to be punished.
The domestication is so strong that at a certain point in our lives we no longer need anyone to domesticate us. We don’t need Mom or Dad, the school or the church to domesticate us. We are so well trained that we are our own domesticator.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Yes, we are our own domesticators. When we do something wrong we tend to punish ourselves. When we do good we reward ourselves with a gift. Our believe system is like a Book of Law and we live by these set of rules and morals. When we were small we were taught all about the Ten Commandments and it is programmed in our brain. I personally try to live by it. Some of us even singled out a few of these commandments to live by daily.
This is the 5 most important ones for me.
Do not misuse the name of God.
Respect your Father and Mother
Do not steal.
Do not lie.
Do not be jealous of others.
Yes, it is not easy but we try and when we stray from our own rules and morals we tend to punish ourselves over and over for the same mistake.
That is all for today friends. Thank you for reading with me.
Have a fantastic day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
<p value="<amp-fit-text layout="fixed-height" min-font-size="6" max-font-size="72" height="80">Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet: Part 4
” I call this process the domestication of humans. And through this domestication we learn how to live and how to dream. In human domestication, the information from the outside dream is conveyed to the inside dream, creating a whole belief system. First the child is taught the names of things: Mom, Dad, milk, bottle. Day by day, at home, at school, at church, and from television, we are told how to live, what kind of behavior is acceptable. The outside dream teaches us how to be a human. We have a whole concept of what a “woman” is and what a “man” is. And we also learn to judge: We judge ourselves, judge other people, judge the neighbors.
Children are domesticated the same way that we domesticate a dog, a cat, or any other animal. In order to teach a dog we punish the dog and we give rewards. We train our children whom we love so much the same way we train any domesticated animal: with a system of punishment and reward.
We are told, “You’re a good boy,” or “You’re a good girl,” when we do what Mom and Dad want us to do. When we don’t we are “a bad girl” or “a bad boy.”
“When we went against the rules we were punished; when we went along with the rules we got a reward. We were punished many times a day, and we were also rewarded many times a day. Soon we became afraid of being punished and also afraid of not receiving the reward. The reward is the attention that we got from our parents or from other people like siblings, teachers, and friends. We soon develop a need to hook other people’s attention in order to get the reward.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
I read a lot of reviews online and most of the bad ones was about “domestication of children”. I have to disagree with them. What the author said is true. We do teach/train our children. When they are good they get praised and rewarded with affection, food, or money. If they do good in school or on the sport field we also reward them. When they are bad or do something not to our wishes we punish them. We take away their technology, activities, and friends they love, we confine them to their rooms. We call it discipline.
I do believe that discipline goes hand in hand with good manners and respect for yourself and others.
If I take my boys for example. Since they were small I taught them the value of respect and good manners. I had “a look” that I gave them when they stray from the straight and narrow. When they did good I rewarded them and they knew that I was very proud of them. When they did something wrong, I asked them why did they do it? I then explained to them why it is wrong and that every action has consequences.
Today I am a proud mother of two men with impeccable manners and who have respect for themselves and others.
If you have any thoughts on the above please feel free to email me or leave a comments.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books for future posts.
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet: Part 3
“The outside dream hooks our attention and teaches us what to believe, beginning with the language that we speak. Language is the code for understanding and communication between humans. Every letter, every word in each language is an agreement. We call this a page in a book; the word page is an agreement that we understand. Once we understand the code, our attention is hooked and the energy is transferred from one person to another.
It was not your choice to speak English. You didn’t choose your religion or your moral values – they were already there before you were born. We never had the opportunity to choose what to believe or what not to believe. We never chose even the smallest of these agreements. We didn’t even choose our own name.
As children, we didn’t have the opportunity to choose our beliefs, but we agreed with the information that was passed to us from the dream of the planet via other humans. The only way to store information is by agreement. The outside dream may hook our attention, but if we don’t agree, we don’t store that information. As soon as we agree, we believe it, and this is called faith. To have faith is to believe unconditionally.
That’s how we learn as children. Children believe everything adults say. We agree with them, and our faith is so strong that the belief system controls our whole dream of life. We didn’t choose these beliefs, and we may have rebelled against them, but we are not strong enough to win the rebellion.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
My titbit on today’s quote.
Children indeed believe everything that adults say. Adults are supposed to teach us and be our role models. Even as adults, we seek the advice and leadership of older and wiser people. Although as children, we did not choose our religion, language, or our moral values. We still have the choice to change them to suit our needs. In the modern age, we can even change our name and surname if we wish to.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Saturday and Sunday – Quotes
List Of Books for future posts.
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
The Magic by Rhonda Byrne – Monday Posts
The Power by Rhonda Byrne
Hero by Rhonda Byrne
Daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne – Friday Posts
The Greatest Secret by Rhonda Byrne
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz (busy reading and discussing)
Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, and just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet: Part 2
“Attention is the ability we have to discriminate and to focus only on that which we want to perceive.”
The Four Agreements by Don Migual Ruiz
Through repetition, the people hooked our attention and put information into our minds. By paying attention, we learned how to behave. What to believe and what not to. We have learned what is acceptable and what is not. What is good and bad. What is beautiful and what is ugly. We also learned the difference between right and wrong.
Everywhere we go, we listen to what the people are teaching us. The same happens in the family dynamic. Mom, Dad, brothers, and sisters are all trying to get your attention. We also learn how to get attention from other humans. We also become very competitive. Children seek the attention of their parents, teachers, and friends. The need for attention becomes very strong, and it never stops.
My thoughts on the above.
We are like sponges. We gather information in school, at Church, from our parents and friends. In the modern age we are also hooked by Television, Social Media and the Internet. We then decide what is acceptable for us. Every person has his or her own perception.
Children will do different things to get attention. They love the praise they get. Some parents even award their children with gifts or money. Others will resort to something wrong to get attention.
We as humans are very competitive and we would hurt others just to get noticed.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Over the next few weeks I am going to read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just a normal person and I find it interesting how different people see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Below is the first few paragraphs of the next chapter. I tried to do a summary of it but then it will only say. Our whole life is just a dream and with Covid for some it’s a nightmare…
Domestication and the Dream of the Planet: Part 1
“What you are seeing and hearing right now is nothing but a dream. You are dreaming right now at this moment. You are dreaming with the brain awake. Dreaming is the main function of the mind, and the mind dreams twenty-four hours a day. It dreams when the brain is awake, and it also dreams when the brain is asleep. The difference is that when the brain is awake, there is a material frame that makes us perceive things in a linear way. When we go to sleep we do not have the frame, and the dream has the tendency to change constantly. Humans are dreaming all the time. Before we were born the humans before us created a big outside dream that we will call society’s dream or the dream of the planet. The dream of the planet is the collective dream of billions of smaller, personal dreams, which together create a dream of a family, a dream of a community, a dream of a city, a dream of a country, and finally a dream of the whole humanity. The dream of the planet includes all of society’s rules, its beliefs, its laws, its religions, its different cultures and ways to be. Its governments, schools, social events, and holidays.”
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
What do I think the author is trying to say to us? I find it difficult to put my thoughts on paper. It is all over the place right now. When I first read this book, I found this chapter confusing. Still do, but this is my thoughts on the above. We are awake and dreaming. Does dreaming refer to thinking? Even when I go to bed at night, my brain does not “switch off” I am always thinking. I get the weirdest dreams at night, I dream of places I have not even seen before or read about . Is that a dream within a dream? I do not always go with what society feels is the way to do things. Does this mean that my dream is different from societies? I also want to live in peace, I believe that respect and good manners are a important part of life. But when you look at the world a big part of humanity does not have respect or good manners?
I would love to hear some of your thoughts on this. Like I said I don’t think I really understand what the author is trying to say, but I am keeping an open mind.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Over the next few weeks I am going to read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just a normal person and I find it interesting how different people see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Today’s Chapter is a story about a man who made a discovery in his dreams. Again PLEASE KEEP AN OPEN MIND.
Chapter 2: The Smokey Mirror
Three thousand years ago, there was a man who studied to become a medicine man. He wanted to learn the knowledge of his ancestors. He did not agree with everything and felt there must more.
On the night of the new moon, he went to the mountains and slept in a cave. He had a dream, and he saw himself sleeping and later went outside. He saw millions of stars in the clear sky. Something happened that transformed his life. He looked at his hands and felt his body. He heard himself say, “I am made of light; I am made of stars.”
He looked at the stars and realized that the light creates the stars. “Everything is made of light,” he said, “and space in-between isn’t empty.” Everything that exists is one living being with light as the messenger.
He realized that although he was made of stars he was not those stars. “I am in-between the stars,” he thought. He called the stars the tonal and the light between the stars the nagual. He knew that what created the harmony and space between the two is life. Without it, the tonal and the nagual could not exist.
Everything in existence is a manifestation of the one living being we call God. He concluded that human perception is merely light perceiving light.
He also saw that the matter is a mirror. Everything is a mirror that reflects light and creates images of that light. The world of illusion, the Dream, is just like smoke, which doesn’t allow us to see what we are. “The real us is pure love, pure light,” he said.
This realization changed his life. He saw himself in everything, other people and nature. He was so excited, and his heart filled with peace. He wanted to tell everyone what he discovered. He could not find the right words to explain it to them, and no one understood him.
They did see a change in him. He no longer judged anything or anyone. He had something beautiful radiating from his eyes. They believed that he was an incarnation of God.
He tried to explain to them that they are all images of light. But they did not understand him.
“Everyone is a mirror,” he said. He saw himself in everyone, but nobody saw him as themselves. He then came to the conclusion that everyone was dreaming, without knowing they are. They could not see him as themselves because there was a wall of smoke between the mirrors. It was made by the interpretation of images of light – the Dreams of humans.
He knew that he would soon forget all he learned and wanted to remember. He then started calling himself Smokey Mirror. This way, he would know that the mirror is the dreamer and the smoke in-between is the Dream.
I am not really sure if I completely understand the story. When I read the book the first time I read this chapter more than 5 times. We all have illusions of the perfect life. But my illusion and another persons illusion is not the same. We as humans are all the same and deep down we all want to be happy and at peace. I have read that we are all connected to each other and maybe this is another way to put it.
What is your take on the story? Please send me an email or leave a comment. I would love to hear your take on it.
Next Week: Chapter 3: Domestication and the Dream of the Planet (This chapter is a bit longer and I will divide it into four parts.)
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
Over the next few weeks I am going to read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz and just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just a normal person and I find it interesting how different people see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
Chapter 1: The Toltec
In Southern Mexico, the Toltecs were known as “women and men of knowledge.” The Toltecs were scientists and artists who formed a society to explore and conserve the spiritual knowledge and practices of the ancient ones. Teotihuacan, the ancient city of pyramids outside of Mexico city was the place of gathering for the masters also known as naguals and the students. Over the millennia, the naguals were forced to conceal ancestral wisdom. A few apprentices misused it for personal gain and it was necessary to shield the knowledge from those who were not prepared to use it wisely. Don Miguel Ruiz, a nagual, has been guided to share with us the powerful teachings of the Toltec. It is not a religion. It is described as a way of life, distinguished by the ready accessibility of happiness and love.
I look forward to learn more about the Toltec teachings.
Tomorrow. Chapter 2: The Smokey Mirror.
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Have a Blessed day.
Coreen
Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts
Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
Thursday – Quote on a photo.
Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
For todays practice we had to Remember yesterday’s blessings. I would like to share one of mine with you.
Over the weekend my Microwave Oven broke. Yesterday I took it back to be fixed. I was so grateful that it broke while still under warrantee. I always take out extended warrantee on my big home appliances but this would only start on 11 September 2021. I got to client services and spoke to the lady behind the counter. I could see she was new and was struggling to get the codes. She phoned someone and then she came back to me very nervous. She told me that according to her supervisor they do not take Microwave ovens in for repairs anymore. She refunded me the full purchase price as well as the extended Warrantee premium I paid.
Now I have a brand new Microwave Oven with a 10 Year Warrantee. I am so grateful for the new Microwave oven. This one has an awesome power saving mode. Looking forward to heating up many dishes in the future.
Some of the books on my list.
I am not abandoning my Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts. I will still be posting them on a daily basis. Sometimes in the morning and sometimes in the evening. I am dedicating Mondays for our continued Gratitude practice. We can’t stop now. If you have certain areas in your life you would like to refresh or share a story about how the Gratitude practices changed your life, feel free to email me.
I have a few self-help books, and I am going to read them and everyday I will share something with you. Post will differ, some will be long and some will be short. If you have any suggestions for good books please let me know. I would love to add them to my library.
List Of Books for future posts.
The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
The Magic by Rhonda Byrne
The Power by Rhonda Byrne
Hero by Rhonda Byrne
Daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
The Greatest Secret by Rhonda Byrne
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
The Master of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz
The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz
With all my heart, thank you for your continued support.
Welcome to my brand new post. I hope you will enjoy it and do the 28 Days of Gratitude Activities with me.
This is not a challenge, it’s to help you and me form a habit of being grateful, and after 28 days, we do not stop. We continue. It does not take that long to do, and you can do your activities throughout the day. I would recommend you make yourself a gratitude journal to do the activities in. You can do it either in a book, on your phone or, on your computer. I made myself a book; I like to write things down in my own handwriting.
For the past 7 days, I incorporated the 28 Days of Gratitude Activities/ practices into my Good Morning Posts. For those who did not follow my Good Morning Posts here are the links to the different days.
How many of us say thank you every time we eat or drink something? Not many, including me. I can remember that we had dinner at the dining room table. Before we even start dishing up; we held hands while dad prayed to say thank you for the food. Somewhere along the way, this practice of gratitude fell through the cracks.
Have you ever been so hungry and thirsty that you are trembling, you are weak and you can’t concentrate? We all need food and something to drink to keep us alive and healthy. Food is a gift to us and we must be grateful.
We must not only be grateful for the food we eat. We must be grateful for the farmer and his farmworkers who grow the vegetables and fruit. We must be grateful for the farmers who supply us with meat, milk, and eggs. We must be grateful for the people who take the raw materials and prepare them and package them for our use. We must be grateful for the truck drivers who bring the goods to the market and the supermarkets where we buy them. The list can go on and on.
Today’s activity will help us to get into the habit of saying thank you again. Every time when you take something to eat or to drink think about it and say thank you. You can do this out loud or in your mind.
I am adding today’s activity to my daily gratitude routine.
Count your blessings: Make a list of 10 blessings. Write why you’re grateful for each blessing. Reread your list and say “thank you, thank you, thank you” Feeling gratitude for each blessing.
Identify 2 relationships and write 5 things you are grateful for in the person. It can be a family member, a friend, a colleague even a pet. During the day say “Thank you, name.”
Say thank your for your different body parts, organs and your senses. Be grateful for each of them.
Four times a day read the words on the card slowly and be grateful for your health. (THE GIFT OF HEALTH IS KEEPING ME ALIVE.)
Four times or more a day look at your Magic Bill and be grateful for the abundance of money you have been given in your life. (THANK YOU FOR ALL THE MONEY I’VE BEEN GIVEN THROUGHOUT MY LIFE.)
While at work, look for things to be grateful for. Say to yourself. ‘I am so grateful for ……….’
Try to go through the day without saying or thinking anything negative. If you think negative thoughts stop immediately and say but I am really grateful for…..
Say Thank you and be grateful every time you eat of drink something.
Before going to bed, take your magic rock/gratitude rock in your hand and think about all the things to be grateful for that happened the day and say Thank you.
Thank you for your ongoing support. I am truly blessed to have so many blogging friends.
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