Good day friends,
Over the next few months, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.
The Third Agreement: Don’t Make Assumptions – Part 4
“It is very interesting how the human mind works. We have the need to justify everything, to explain and understand everything, in order to feel safe. We have millions of questions that need answers because there are so many things that the reasoning mind cannot explain. It is not important if the answer is correct; just the answer itself makes us feel safe. This is why we make assumptions.
If others tell us something, we make assumptions, and if they don’t tell us something we make assumptions to fulfill our need to know and to replace the need to communicate. Even if we hear something we don’t understand, we make assumptions about what it means and then believe the assumptions. We make all sorts of assumptions because we don’t have the courage to ask questions.
These assumptions are made so fast and unconsciously most of the time because we have agreements to communicate this way. We have agreed that it is not safe to ask questions; we have agreed that if people love us, they should know what we want or how we feel. When we believe something, we assume we are right about it to the point that it will destroy relationships in order to defend our position.”Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements
I don’t know about you, but this sounds a lot like me. I always think that the people who loves me know what I am thinking and then I get mad if they don’t. We do not communicate anymore. The same with texting. You imagine the “tone” in which the other person says it and you are immediately on your high horse. All the time your partner or the other person did not mean anything by it. It is you making assumptions of how the other person is feeling and reacting….
WE MUST STOP MAKING ASSUMPTIONS!!!!
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