The Four Agreements: Part 16

Good day friends,

Over the next few weeks, I am reading, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Some days  I will Quote a page or just give you a summary of what I read and how I understand it. I am just an ordinary person, and I find it interesting how different people and cultures see the world. This is not based on any typical religion. I hope you find it as interesting as I did. Please keep an open mind.

The First Agreement: Be Impeccable with Your Word – Part 2

“…..During our domestication, our parents and siblings gave their opinions about us without even thinking. We believed these opinions and we lived in fear over these opinions, like not being good at swimming, or sports, or writing. Someone gives an and says, “Look, this girl is ugly!” The girl listens, believes she is ugly, and grows up with the idea that she is ugly. It doesn’t matter how beautiful she is; as long as she has that agreement, she will believe that she is ugly. That is the spell she is under.

By hooking our attention, the word can enter our mind and change a whole belief for better or for worse. Another example: You may believe you are stupid, and you may have believed this for as long as you can remember. This agreement can be very tricky, causing you to do a lot of things just to ensure that you are stupid. You may do something and think to yourself, “I wish I were smart, but I must be stupid or I wouldn’t have done that.” The mind goes in hundreds o different directions, and we could spend days getting hooked by just that one belief in our own stupidity.

Then one day someone hooks your attention and using the word, lets you know that you are not stupid. You believe what the person says and make a new agreement. As a result, you no longer feel or act stupid. A whole spell is broken, just by the power of the word. Conversely, if you believe you are stupid, and someone hooks your attention and says, “Yes, you are really the most stupid person I have ever met,” the agreement will be reinforced and become even stronger.

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

When I was in high school I believed I was fat. Why did I think that because the other girls said so. When I looked at myself in the mirror I hated what I saw. I started exercising and starving myself because I “needed to lose some weight”.

I have been doing ballet since I was in Grade 1 and at that time we had classes 4 times a week and also during school holidays. Before one of our exams our Ballet teacher spoke to us individually to point out what we need to work. That day my whole perspective about my body changed. She told me that I have a perfect body and the most beautiful legs she has ever seen. I believed her and looked at my body in a whole different way. The only thing I had to work on was my breathing and keeping eye contact with the examinator.

I made a choice to believe my teacher and everything changed. I had more self-confidence and even my schoolwork improved.

I realized at an early age that when others are jealous of you they will “plant” bad thoughts in your mind. We have the choice to accept and make a new agreement or we choose not to accept it.

Once again we need to be impeccable with our words. Always try to be kind and don’t speak negative words.

With all my heart, thank you for your continued support. I do hope you enjoy the book with me.

Till next week. Have a Blessed day.


Schedule for Gratitude. Love. Positivity Posts

  • Monday – Practicing Gratitude (Using The Magic by Rhonda Byrne as guideline)
  • Tuesday & Wednesday – Talk about current book. (The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz)
  • Thursday – Quote on a photo.
  • Friday – Refer to something in The daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
  • Saturday and Sunday – Quotes


List Of Books used in Gratitude. Love. Positivity posts:

  1. The Everything Law of Attraction Book by Meera Lester
  2. The Power of Positive Thinking by Norman Vincent Peale
  3. The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
  4. The Magic by Rhonda Byrne
  5. The Power by Rhonda Byrne
  6. Hero by Rhonda Byrne
  7. Daily Teachings by Rhonda Byrne
  8. The Greatest Secret by Rhonda Byrne
  9. The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
  10. The Master of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz
  11. The Voice of Knowledge by Don Miguel Ruiz

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